The other night, I was involved in a discussion in regards to 'what to get for Valentines' with a group of friends. It was brought up by someone asking about what to get for their boyfriend since the actual date of Valentines is just around the corner, a few weeks from now.
I always find it kind of weird when people ask about what to get for their partner since, as their partner, surely it would be more appropriate that you'd know enough about them yourself without resorting to asking for other peoples' help? It would make sense only if you had started to date them, but even then, it would be part of your own task to find out more about them so that you could find something appropriate to give them, lest of course you fall back to traditional things.
What it boils down to for me, being a bit of a romantic as some would say, is that it should come from you, with the emotions you carry and feel for that particular person. The commercialisation of many celebrated events can often ruin their true and original purposes, and so, for something that is meant to be a celebration of love or affection, togetherness with someone, it should not necessarily be something about purchase, or utility (even though I am a person of utility, I do appreciate things with thought behind them), but has a greater impact if you make it much more personal and/or even hand made.
If you have been with someone a while, then it might get challenging as you go along, but, it should be also important to consider that it's okay to not have to produce something different or new each year, but rather to show that you still love, appreciate, and care about them in a way that only you know how. It is also an opportunity to just remind yourself and them of the little things that bind the two of you together, if you have any.
If it's someone new, then, good luck LOL. But, in all honesty, something from the heart, heartfelt with sincerity, should be suffice. Unless of course your partner is very materialistic, then that will depend on you if you wish to follow their desires or not, and should they get upset about you expressing your deeper emotions, then perhaps you may want to reconsider the connectivity you hold between the two of you.
Of course, there are classic fall-backs of flowers, chocolates and so forth. I actually have no idea what you would get a guy since I've never had to give something to a guy, so best of luck to you out there if you do need to :)
I always find it kind of weird when people ask about what to get for their partner since, as their partner, surely it would be more appropriate that you'd know enough about them yourself without resorting to asking for other peoples' help? It would make sense only if you had started to date them, but even then, it would be part of your own task to find out more about them so that you could find something appropriate to give them, lest of course you fall back to traditional things.
What it boils down to for me, being a bit of a romantic as some would say, is that it should come from you, with the emotions you carry and feel for that particular person. The commercialisation of many celebrated events can often ruin their true and original purposes, and so, for something that is meant to be a celebration of love or affection, togetherness with someone, it should not necessarily be something about purchase, or utility (even though I am a person of utility, I do appreciate things with thought behind them), but has a greater impact if you make it much more personal and/or even hand made.
If you have been with someone a while, then it might get challenging as you go along, but, it should be also important to consider that it's okay to not have to produce something different or new each year, but rather to show that you still love, appreciate, and care about them in a way that only you know how. It is also an opportunity to just remind yourself and them of the little things that bind the two of you together, if you have any.
If it's someone new, then, good luck LOL. But, in all honesty, something from the heart, heartfelt with sincerity, should be suffice. Unless of course your partner is very materialistic, then that will depend on you if you wish to follow their desires or not, and should they get upset about you expressing your deeper emotions, then perhaps you may want to reconsider the connectivity you hold between the two of you.
Of course, there are classic fall-backs of flowers, chocolates and so forth. I actually have no idea what you would get a guy since I've never had to give something to a guy, so best of luck to you out there if you do need to :)
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