People be surprising. While it isn't really anything new, and it has been know for a long time by many, it's always interesting to get a reminder now and then, here and there, that people really can be surprising.
I guess it comes down to the idea that if you know someone well to an extent, you like to believe you think you can predict to a certain degree (of course dependant upon how well you know the person) their potential behaviour and so forth. Some people spend a great deal of time and effort to make such analysis part of their routine (I don't) so they can be more comfortable around people in knowing what is likely to be the behaviour of people.
For me, I think due to my slightly selective and at times faulty fuzzy memory, it makes it harder to remember exactly certain nuances of people, and thus I can be quite easily surprised at times when actions occur of people.
This of course encompasses both positive and negative surprises, in the sense that you get the feeling of 'I didn't think they'd do/be that' or 'I can't believe that they would' etc. That said, it is a bit arrogant to think that you could know someone so so well that you will forever be able to determine their every move (I certainly don't), though I'd rather not be left speechless or incoherent from such events.
So, perhaps be a little more flexible in mind and thought, and allow yourself the room to move when people do behave contrastedly differently to what you expect, and you may find yourself handling negative situations better, and enjoying positive situations more.
I guess it comes down to the idea that if you know someone well to an extent, you like to believe you think you can predict to a certain degree (of course dependant upon how well you know the person) their potential behaviour and so forth. Some people spend a great deal of time and effort to make such analysis part of their routine (I don't) so they can be more comfortable around people in knowing what is likely to be the behaviour of people.
For me, I think due to my slightly selective and at times faulty fuzzy memory, it makes it harder to remember exactly certain nuances of people, and thus I can be quite easily surprised at times when actions occur of people.
This of course encompasses both positive and negative surprises, in the sense that you get the feeling of 'I didn't think they'd do/be that' or 'I can't believe that they would' etc. That said, it is a bit arrogant to think that you could know someone so so well that you will forever be able to determine their every move (I certainly don't), though I'd rather not be left speechless or incoherent from such events.
So, perhaps be a little more flexible in mind and thought, and allow yourself the room to move when people do behave contrastedly differently to what you expect, and you may find yourself handling negative situations better, and enjoying positive situations more.
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